Talking to Kids About Divorce: Guest Post by David D. Fix and Steven G. Hamming, PsyD


From Dr. Hamming:

Parents, one of the most important aspects to keep in mind during your divorce is the uncertainty it creates in your children. You hold so much information about what is happening and likely to happen in the future. Your children, in contrast, know almost about what you are thinking about the present and future and will be filled with questions, anxiety, and fears wondering if you are aware of them and what they are most concerned about.

Talk often with your children about the reality that you are aware of them and that they will be taken care of. That may seem so obvious to you, but for your children, who are totally dependent upon you and your provision for them, they need to hear it often and know with some degree of certainty that you have them in mind. Unfortunately, divorce is often a very selfish time for the parents as they plot out the course for their new lives. Children intuitively get a sense of this and will need to be reassured that you have their needs in mind as well.

About the Book:

Title: Sun Moon Daughter
David D. Fix and Steven G. Hamming, PsyD
Age Range: 5 and up
Picture Book: 32 pages
Publisher: Hearth Productions LLC

Sun Moon Daughter offers parents a way to talk with their children about divorce. When the Sun and Moon meet in the sky and fall in love, they produce a heavenly daughter, Grace. Throughout the story, Grace witnesses and comes to terms with her parent’s separation. As children react to Grace’s experience, they are given a chance to reveal their feelings about what might be going on in their own lives.

Sun Moon Daughter assists both parents and children in working through what is typically a difficult and complex episode in their lives. Therapeutic questions and statements written by Steven G. Hamming, PsyD align with each of the page’s themes. Sun Moon Daughter was written to provide hope to both parents and children as they move forward in building loving relationships.

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About the Authors:

David is a teacher, author and artist interested in empowering others. Having seen how divorce can hurt the children involved, he was inspired to create Sun Moon Daughter as a way to give children their power back in a seemingly powerless situation.

Dr. Hamming is a psychologist, collaborative divorce coach, and father of five who has had to walk his own children through the storm of a difficult divorce. Taking from both his clinical and personal experience, he seeks to assist other families in their time of reorganization. He is also a member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals.

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  • Reply
    July 3, 2013 at 7:14 pm

    Love the imagery here. What a unique idea for such a tough topic. Thanks for sharing.

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    Renee C.
    July 10, 2013 at 4:09 am

    Great resource for kids in the midst of divorce. Such a tough topic and this book looks like it handles the topic so well. Thanks for sharing in the Kid Lit Blog Hop. 🙂

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    Ann Shirley
    November 7, 2013 at 7:29 pm

    I think showing children books about divorce is a great way to help them cope and better understand what is happening. Books can explain things in ways that children can relate to and sometimes they state things better than adults can, especially when the adults are overwhelmed with a range of emotions that may prevent them from communicating effectively to their children. However, with that being said, it is still important to open discussion with your child. My divorce lawyer, Marshall Davis Brown explained the importance of being honest with children about divorce. I think this is the best approach to take.

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